It seems that every work place or organization has its own spectre. You know the type. Even after they are long gone, their names keep coming up to remind you of the hassles they caused, created or participated in. Even though there have been dozens, if not hundreds of lovely people since them, it is the spectra and not the nice people who get the attention. Why do we let them dominate us long after they have physically gone? Why can’t we just forget them and resign them to the dustbin of our memories, instead of letting them dominate our thoughts on a regular basis?
I don’t have any answers here and I guess the only way we can resign them to the dust bins of our minds is to mentally stop ourselves when we start to talk or even think of them and consciously concentrate on some of the nicer people we have been lucky enough to have come across in our lives. Neglect and destroy the memories of these e spectres by focusing on the “Saints” in our lives.
I know that we all have our spectres but I am not interested here in learning who your spectra is, but rather I am wondering, how many people are there out there, that think of you as their spectra? How many people think of us as their own special spectres because of things we have done to them, either intentionally or un-intentionally? What say you? Walter
2 comments:
Being someone's dark spot isn't necessarily a bad thing!!! Maybe it was just you being hard on someone who really needed it. But years down the road they'll remember it and be thankful because it woke them up and got them to shift directions. But you're right, sometimes we are unnecessarily hard or mean to people, whether we mean to or not. And although words should never hurt us, they have been known to make some people go to drastic measures. Words should be rarely spoken, chosen carefully, and delivered delicately when there is any chance that they could hurt.
Hi Lynx, Working on a blog response to this, so here, I will simply say what you say is right, but here I was talking about real troublemakers and not just friends or aquaintences! More in the blog. But again I agree 100% with your advice for general situations. Thanks again.Walter
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